Not sure who to ask to join you in your journey down the aisle? These 7 questions will help you decide who should join your bride tribe...
#1 Are you asking because you have to?
Asking out of obligation is kind-of okay if your budget allows you to. If it doesn’t, keep your bride tribe on the smaller side, rather than asking every cousin/uni friend/etc to join you when you walk down the aisle. Likewise, if you’re asking her just because she asked you to be bridesmaid at her own wedding - you don’t need to! Returning the favour for the sake of it is expensive and unnecessary.
#2 Will your friendship stand the test of time?
Naturally, your bridesmaids should be the leading ladies who you couldn’t imagine your life without. Only choose people that are truly meaningful - it’s better to have one brilliant bridesmaid than half-a-dozen who you might not keep in touch with.
#3 Does she have the time to join you?
It will sound a little clinical but if she’s logistically unavailable - whether owing to geography or personal life - then spare both you and her any complications by cutting her from your ‘bridesmaid?’ list.
#4 Will she help you keep your bridal cool at all times?
You want bridesmaids who will keep you feeling cool and calm as you plan your wedding - and definitely not people who will inadvertently encourage panic or feed stress-storms.
#5 Is she interested in your wedding?
If she’s a bit *shoulder shrug* about your wedding plans, that’s of course totally fine - not everyone is hyper-interested in other people’s celebrations, after all! However, it means she’s most likely not going but not really bridesmaid-worthy.
#6 Would she prefer another role instead?
If you want to include her in your wedding but just don’t know how, don’t throw the title ‘bridesmaid’ at her for the sake of it. Rather, there are plenty other things she could do that would make her just as included: for example, she could give a reading at your ceremony.
#7 Is she supportive of your relationship?
If your friend has never been too keen on your partner, or has had issue with your relationship in the past, steer clear of any politics by ruling her out of your bridal party from the off. So much easier than treading on eggshells or worrying about future fallings-out.